CSQ ADVISOR
Daryl Wizelman
Author, Speaker, HeartLeader LLC
Daryl Wizelman is a leadership, corporate culture, emotional intelligence, life planning, and work/life balance visionary. He speaks to, consults, and motivates companies, associations, professional athletes, professional sports teams, and individuals all over the world.
From 1990–2007, Wizelman built, owned, and operated a financial services company with over 550 employees. The company was known for its employee loyalty, abundant culture, and world-class client satisfaction. During this time, he developed the strategies that today make him a sought-after speaker and consultant to a variety of companies, business leaders, athletes, professional sports teams, and associations.
Daryl and his wife, Ondrea, have been together since they were 16 and are the parents of 7-year-old boy/girl twins. They live in Calabasas, California.
818/876.7337
Blog: www.heartleader.com
Giving Without Expections
Giving without the expectation of getting anything in return can lead to amazing personal and professional fulfillment and rich rewards. If we are willing to give away what we have both from an intellectual perspective and an emotional perspective, we are often rewarded in so many ways.
Let me begin by talking about the business side. If I am abundant and willing to share what I know (ideas, processes, procedures, techniques, contacts, etc.) even with my closest competitor, I win. I win in knowing I have assisted others. I win in knowing that I am helping my industry grow and prosper. I win because I can then encourage the business owners I have shared with to share with others. One of my favorite quotes to illustrate the definition of abundance is from Antoine de Saint-Exupery:
“For true love is inexhaustible; the more you give, the more you have. And if you go to draw at the true fountainhead, the more water you draw, the more abundant is its flow.”
On the personal side, we have all learned many lessons through the missteps we have made in our life’s journey. We now have the opportunity to share and teach our family, friends, and co-workers our painful lessons through transparency, honesty, and vulnerability in an attempt to mitigate their pain from future missteps. It may not work in one hundred percent of the cases, as some people still need to touch the flame to understand the pain. But it is well worth the effort.
I have heard it said that we often take for granted the people we love the most. Here is an opportunity to reverse that trend. Give them love, loyalty, respect, and honesty, and listen to them with an open heart and mind. In the end they are the ones who will be left standing when the others have fallen away. Be gracious to those who are closest to you.
An example of giving without expectation is in the beloved 1971 film Charlie and the Chocolate Factory when, at the end of the film, Charlie Bucket returns the sacred Everlasting Gobstopper to Willy Wonka against the recommendation of his Grandpa Joe. Charlie expects nothing in return and yet when Wonka gives him the keys to the chocolate factory, he received everything he had ever dreamed of and more. The film offers an abundance of valuable life lessons. It speaks to greed, selfishness, ego, and a parent’s influence, positive and negative, on their children. If you haven’t seen the film, seen it in several years, or shown it to children that you influence, this is an opportunity to learn and teach some very valuable life lessons.
The concept of “freemium” is another great example of this idea. Put simply, a “freemium” is giving a portion of the product and/or service we offer for FREE, with no expectation of reward. Here are the questions we must ask ourselves: How can we best serve our family, co-workers, friends, and clients? What can we give to them that can potentially improve their lives? Is it advice? Is it the gift of listening? Is it a handwritten card? Is it a check-in call? Is it our product or service for free?
If we all give without the expectation of getting anything in return, we further a movement of making the world a happier, more productive place. I encourage everyone to be abundant and give away what they know so that others’ lives are improved. Take it a step further and encourage those you have been abundant with to share what they have learned with others. Pay it forward one person at a time until the movement is a way of life and not the exception to the rule. I believe the benefit we derive from our giving will far exceed our expectations both emotionally and financially.
Give with no expectations.
